How soon is too soon to spend a travel holiday with your boyfriend’s family?
Question by desespoir_noir: How soon is too soon to spend a travel holiday with your boyfriend’s family?
My boyfriend and I have only known each other a little over seven weeks. By the time Thanksgiving rolls around, it’ll be more like twelve weeks. Christmas will be sixteen or seventeen. In months that’s roughly two, three, and four, which sounds longer than weeks, but only by a little.
However, we’ve bonded incredibly fast, and it may have been a little less than two months since we met, but both of us feels like the time before we knew each other was a loooong time ago. We’re both into having the other meet our parents this coming set of hoildays. We live in Northern California. My parents are flying out from Ohio, so that’s a big deal for Thanksgiving, and to see his parents at Christmas I’d have to travel to Southern California. That’s another big deal.
Is the time frame for this kind of visit subjective? Are we rushing it a little? Is it fine since we’re both behind the idea? Would it be weird for our families? I could conceivably travel to meet his parents at a less significant time, but my parents will only be here for three days, and who knows how long it’ll be before they come back, so he’s at least having a Wednesday night dinner with them or something.
I don’t know. This is the first guy I’ve dated since moving away from home several years ago that I actually want my parents to meet, and I’m a little lost. What are your thoughts on boyfriends/girlfriends and meeting parents that live more than, say, 400 miles away?
Best answer:
Answer by Iheartyou
id say go for it if ur both feeling it .
I was only dating my boyfriend for about 4 or 5 months when I took him up in the summer on a family vaca states and states away.
my family was actually really open to it
as long as ur bf is respectful and nice I dont see why they wouldnt like him
go for it 
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It’s never too soon, you can just introduce him as your friend/date, don’t make it out to be too serious, because it’s not.
Ofcourse let them know that you are bringing him.
I think when children are grown, it’s completely appropriate to bring friends, and dates along. Completely.
From northern to southern CA is a quick commuter flight, not a big deal. Check the prices on SW Airlines. The length of time you’ve known each other has absolutely nothing to do with it.
I’ve re-read your question several times, and fail to see what problem you are having. Is it because you don’t want them to know you are sleeping together? You are apparently an adult, stop making this into a deal that it isn’t.
personally it all depends on the “two” involved. if you two are hitting it off that well and getting along i think that is great. you have time yet before the holdiays, tht gives you more time to get to know each other. perhaps talk to his parents a little on the phone if he calls them or they call ? say hi how are ya //blah blah kinda thing..cant wait to meet you.
i dont see anything wrong with it…and get him to meet yours as well ..thats gooood.
relax and enjoy this time..
Personally, I feel that distance is irrelevant. If you and your boyfriend are fully behind the idea then it sound great.
I was always one to take things slowly with partners ….until I met my current partner. He had moved in within a month and we were pretty full on. We went away on a big family holiday to spain after two months and my family loved him. My partner and I have now been together for five years.
You should go for it, it sounds as if you are both serious about the relationship so why wait!
Good luck and hope you enjoy the holidays
Vicki
If you feel this is a long term, possibly marriage some day, relationship, then I don’t see why not. I would certainly make sure the parents felt comfortable with it.
I traveled with my, now husband of 20 years, to meet his family the first chance we got. Course, by then we were already engaged, but we were close enough as early on as you are with yours to have done it at that stage. We knew it was a long-term deal within about a month of our first date. I wish the visit could have been sooner than it was, actually, but the trip was an 18 hour drive each way (about 1000 miles), and he had just visited them around the time we met.
WELL, i am a little old fashioned and i believe you never truly know your mate until you’ve dated for at least a year, so therefore i dont introduce anyone to mom and dad until i have dated someone for at least a year. but if it works for you, and the fam’s ok with it, go for it.
It’s never too soon. Friends can do this sort of thing whenever they want so even new couples should too. Enjoy the fact that you can go on holiday. You are currently part of each other’s lives and so you should take part in family events etc. It may be that you will not stay together but enjoy what the relationship has to offer for now.
So don’t think of it as something monumental, think of it as a chance to visit somewhere you’ve never gone before and to meet some new people. Hopefully you can relax and enjoy the trip.